Three Reasons Why Honesty in Recovery is Important
Honesty is the most respected moral characteristics of all. Honesty isn’t just about telling the truth. Rather, it’s about being real with yourself and showing up authentically. Honesty in recovery promotes a sense of openness. In the same way, you will feel empowered as you show up consistently as your authentic self.
“We admit we are powerless over alcohol and that our lives had become unmanageable.” – Step 1, Alcoholics Anonymous
You have to pay close attention to honesty in recovery. For this reason, the first step in the AA program is spiritual in nature. You have to be truthful to others, But just as important, you need to be honest with yourself. You will hear a mantra circulating in the AA community:
“We are as sick as our secrets.”
You are more prone to relapse if you do not develop honesty as a personal quality. This is why honesty has to become a daily practice until it becomes second nature. But why is it that some people in the recovery community continue to be dishonest? There are many possibilities, but the following are three reason why honesty in recovery is so important.
Honesty in Recovery…Because Dishonesty is a Common Relapse Trigger
Quite often, lying becomes a habit because of an underlying fear of natural consequences. In other words, lying is a way to protect yourself. But lying is an unproductive coping skill. While it is completely normal to struggle with getting caught in a lie, the key is to just fess up. Acknowledge your dishonestly as soon as possible. Failing to do so could not only bring feelings of guilt but also put your sobriety in jeopardy. A great way to track your honesty in recovery is to keep a journal. In doing so, you will be able to monitor your behavior and target times of dishonesty.
Dishonesty Will Make You Feel Trapped
Dishonesty traps people who are active in their addiction. Likewise, dishonestly can make you feel trapped in your recovery. Denial is common when you are perhaps unmotivated to face challenges. After all, it may seem easier to hide from a challenge than face it. But it is difficult to make any sort of progress unless you can openly recognize these challenges. At that point, you will be able to take the appropriate action to solve the problem. It’s important to face things as they come. While managing life without depending upon substances may pose as a challenge initially, your honesty in recovery is your priority. Practice honesty daily, just like you would if you were going to work out at the gym. It takes both practice and patience.
Dishonesty Destroys Relationships
Honesty in recovery is key to rebuilding your relationships. Your family and friends can be devastated by your untruthfulness. In addition, your sponsor or therapist may have a difficult time detecting progress and healing if you continue to be dishonest. Prior to getting clean and sober, your dishonesty placed an emphasis on your addiction over the ones you loved. Now that your recovery is your priority, you can rebuild the foundation you have created with those you love and care about.
Free by the Sea encourages addicts or people impacted by a loved one with an addiction in the Pacific Northwest, including Washington (Vancouver), Oregon (Portland), Alaska and surrounding areas to contact us for guidance and assistance.